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Okay, so this is kind of wedding related, but not really, so I'm not going to cut it.
I was talking to my mom on the phone tonight and she told me that her and my dad had been talking about my Sister-In-Law, Graz, lately. For those who are new or who have forgotten, here is a quick point form synopsis.
-Found out October 2000 that my dad had been married before and had a son.
-Son, Scott, was at the time 29 years old and married to Graz
-We met Scott and found out he was sick; brain cancer
-We got to know Scott fairly well over a year before he got really sick
-He moved into the hospital full time and I only went to see him once; still dealing with some big-time guilt surronding that
-After not seeing him for five months, he passed away this past January
-I went to the funeral along with Jody, my younger brother; my dad stayed home because of some lingering hostility with his ex-wife and the desire not to make a scene at that delicate time
-Sort of lost touch with Graz again after the funeral, as in haven't talked to her since, not sure if it was a mis-understanding on someone's part or if it was intentional on someone's part

Okay, so this leaves off at this evening. I was talking to my mom on the phone and I wanted to know how my dad would feel about my calling Graz to tell her about the engagement. Word is starting to spread quickly and I really thought it would be rude to have her hear it from someone else, which she likely would if I didn't call her. My dad said I was "grown" and free to do as I wished. So I called her.
She was actually really glad to hear from me. Excited (she loves Dan) as someone who just lost their husband could be. She said she appreciated us giving her the space. She said she's still not sure what she wants and still has good days and bad days as far as dealing with Scott's death are concerned. She said she's ready to be in contact with us again now and wants to see us again.
So I think this was really good timing. It wasn't just calling out of the blue after so long, it was calling with a purpose that served as a really good ice-breaker. So I hope this gets things off the ground for us again. I would really hate to loser her as part of my life after all we've been through together. I'm going to follow up on this one for sure!! I bought a little card for her a while back that I've been too chicken to send. Maybe I'll put that in the mail next week with a few pictures from the engagement. Yeah, then it's not like a card out of the blue, it's a card with a purpose. See the theme?
Anyway, that's my kind of good/relieving news for the night. :)
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I'm a complete space cadet this morning, I don't know what my problem is.
I left the house a few mintues later this morning, so I rushed a bit. Caught my street car and transfered to the subway. I get off the southbound subway to transfer lines and I got on the stupid westbound train(I work east)...and didn't even notice for three whole stops. What a ditz!! So I got back off and switched directions.
Then, when I was finally at my proper stop I got off and started walking to work and remembered that I had a dream about Scott last night and started to cry. It's been almost four months now...will be exactly four months this coming Friday. Sometimes the pain just hits all over again, like it's just fresh. Other times I can think about him and just have happy memories and smile.
Time, I know. It's just still hard.


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